So I've been Facebookin' for a little while and I mostly like it--I'm in touch with a lot of my old college friends plus newer friends and we do wacky stuff like poke each other (that's Facebook talk!) and send cats and sushi. But it's also been a little depressing--the whole add/ignore friends concept and the rejected/dejected feeling when you're "denied" is not fun.
Loooong story short--I have (I guess had) a really good friend that I have known forever--like since we were six. We were good friends for a million years, but--oh, I'm trying to keep this short-- drifted apart in a weird way. I guess I shouldn't even say drifted, because it was more of a calculated move on her part--she didn't want to be friends with me anymore, not because we got into a fight or anything, but (my theory is anyway) that she had developed a certain way of "being" around me--kind of an insecure persona--and I think she wanted to "reinvent" herself and that meant starting a new circle of friends, etc.
As I said, that's just a theory--maybe she really just hates my guts! I don't think so, though. Anyway, we have had a few brief encounters through the years--a couple of very short emailing stints which she cuts off after two or three emails, a couple of cards sent, and once when we saw each other at a grade school reunion. The whole thing has been strange because we were SUCH good friends (like we talked every day probably for 20-something years!)--so to go from that to a couple of casual emails has been hard.
So when I started up with Facebook, I found her on there and sent a "friend request" but included a little message with it that said she didn't have to be my "friend" if she didn't want to--a no pressure kind of thing--but I wanted to say Hi, etc. Well, she "denied" the request. Ouch! So that was Facebook--Strike One.
Then there's Bret Easton Ellis (you know--the author? American Psycho? Less Than Zero?). We went to college together, though we were not friends--I mean, I sat on the floor with him during the Tale of Genji class and we passed an occasional note--but that was about it! But a lot of my college friends that I have on Facebook were not great pals--just acquaintances. Anyway Ellis said: friendship denied! Facebook--Strike Two.
So that brings me to my current dilemma--and one I need help from my BlogFriends with: I used to date someone who's a celebrity (I guess that's not even an important part of the equation--just makes it a little more interesting!). He's not like Tom Cruise famous or anything--but pretty well-known. And he wasn't my "boyfriend"--we went to movies and dinner and...stuff. But nothing serious.
It's been years and years since I've had any contact with him and, the thing is, I really do like him and think he's super smart and funny--and I would like to be "friends" with him on Facebook--but now I'm scared of the rejection!
So help me decide! Do I send a request and risk the embarrassment of a snub but the possibility of reconnection on Facebook? Is it worth it? I need your help, people!!
I guess from a blogging perspective--an acceptance or a denial could be interesting? Even if I'm humiliated I can blog about it, right?
I'm leaving it in your hands...Thanks in advance!